November 27, 2007

5 Dangerous Words   You usually believe what you tell yourself, and sometimes what you tell yourself can be dangerous.  Have you ever said the following words?   Maybe it will go away.   C'mon, you can admit it. It happens to the best of us.  Sometimes it does go away, but usually NOT.  "It" can refer to a person, a situation, a pain; you fill in the blank.    "Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored," said Aldous Huxley.  If you are to experience success in your life and be fulfilled, then you must get out of denial (maybe it will go away) and face the reality of what is not working in your life.    What is not working?  Try these on for size: Is your marriage built on lies and deceit? Do you ignore your lack of energy? Do you have a pain you've been ignoring? Do you put aside your credit card bills hoping they'll go away for real? Is there an elephant in the room you are hoping will just go away? Is your team at work fantastic, except for one person who refuses to budge? Are you wishing and hoping your flab will melt away by itself?   "To face what's not working in your life usually means you're going to have to do something uncomfortable.  It means you might have to exercise more self-discipline, confront somebody, risk not being liked, ask for what you want, demand respect instead of settling for an abusive relationship, or maybe even quit your job.  But because you don't want to do these uncomfortable things, you'll often defend tolerating a situation that doesn't work," says author and speaker Jack Canfield.    You must be willing to get out of your comfort zone to confront what is not working in your life.  Start today by making your "maybe it will go away" list.   Then ask yourself the tough questions as to what you must do to face the situation.  What action steps must you take in order to actually make the issue go away, or at least get better?  Don't stress about all your problems at once.  Prioritize your list and focus on one at a time.  Then choose the action step(s) you must take and take action.    Ignoring the realities in your life only intensifies your feelings of despair and pain.  Successful people don't just wish their problems will go away; they do whatever is in their power to make them go away.  You won't hear those 5 dangerous words from them!          5 Words You Do Want To Say   "Yes, I will be there."    Join me next summer on a cruise toSt. John,New Brunswick,Canadasponsored by http://www.warschawlearninginstitute.com/ The Warschaw Learning Institute has been teaching dental management since 2001 via the Internet. They offer state-of-the-art learning opportunities using the technology that is available right at your fingertips. Besides their Dental Office Management Program, HIPAA, Dental Insurance Course and Telephone Training tools such as instructional videos and CD's, they also offer specific online courses for dentists and hygienists.   They are branching out in 2008 with their Smiles Ahoy Dental Seminars at Sea.  I am pleased to be the speaker for the August 14-18, 2008 seminar at sea toCanada.  The ship leaves fromNew York City.  "Live Life to the Fullest" is the topic for the day and the cruise is open to dental professionals, and non-dental family and friends.  There will be learning, motivation, and empowerment for all attendees.  Don't miss out.  For more information, click here.   I hope to see you there!  Space is limited so sign up early.  You may receive 6 hours of CE credits.          My relaxing, yet oftentimes busy Thanksgiving weekend has come to an end.  I managed to sleep in a bit, enjoy family and friends, eat too much, and even shop on Black Saturday.  Valerie's apartment mate (she hails fromSurrey County,UK) spent the week with us and introduced us to some British culture.  Baked beans on toast for breakfast!!  I'll pass.   All is quiet now at the house and I'm gearing up for a productive week of book selling, marketing, woman dentist activity, and some exercise.  No, the pumpkin pie will not melt away by itself.   The sixteen women in Rings around the Collar share their "realities" and I know that many of them said to themselves those 5 dangerous words.  What do power, partnership, communication, and commitment have to do with a successful marriage or relationship?  Find out in Rings around the Collar.  Order your copy by the end of the year and I will autograph it for you.  Order online at www.ringsaroundthecollar.com   Have a fantastic week and avoid those 5 dangerous words.   Stephanie        We grow by "word-of-email" so please feel free to forward this newsletter to anyone whom you think might benefit from and enjoy it. Thanks so much! Contact Us: stephanie@7steps2abalancedlife.com