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How to Banish Your Envy
Have you ever felt envious of those who have more than you - well, those who you think have more than you? More money, more success, more friends, more house, a more lavish office, more anything?
Envy has been around forever; Aristotle defined it as "the pain caused by the good fortunes of others." When you feel envious, chances are you have feelings of inferiority towards yourself, resentment of your own circumstances, and longing for those good fortunes others have.
Envy is a negative emotion and it is an ugly word. Furthermore, it is detrimental to your health and well-being and your ability to achieve personal and professional satisfaction in your life. Who needs it!
Follow these tips to banish your envy:
Stop comparing yourself to others. What you think you see on the surface of other people's lives may not be the reality they face every day. You don't know what lurks behind their fancy car or big house. It could be a mountain of debt. Furthermore, can you say without a doubt that they are happy? And, maybe they hate their high paying job. Besides which, if and when you get what they have, who's to say you will be any happier or self-satisfied.
Focus on you. You are unique, like no one else. This is your life. Stop wasting your time and energy focusing on others. Create a positive attitude and a positive mindset that will guide you to your wants.
Use envy to motivate you to be your best. You have the power and the wherewithal to create your best life, so get moving. Put your time, energy, and talents (yes, you have them) into what you want.
If you want the success others have, go after it, for your own self. Self-improvement is the key. Take some classes. Change your mindset. Find a mentor. Find new friends or colleagues. Do whatever it takes to have what you want. Unlock your purpose, your direction, and your ambition. Stop the excuses that you're not as capable as others, because you are.
Enjoy and be grateful for what you do have. Longing for what you don't have will only bring more "lack" into your life. Focus on the positive in your life and you will attract more of it.
Celebrate your successes and your uniqueness. Give yourself credit for what you have accomplished so far and believe that more of the best is to come.
You will never achieve beyond your wildest dreams if you continue longing for what others have. Banish your envy and replace it with the longing to have what you want and the motivation and action to go after it.
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