April 20, 2010

What is the Message of the 3 Ds?   Disgust, disappointment, and discomfort - the 3 Ds with a message.   Disgust is the feeling that you've had enough, and you're not going to take it anymore. Enough of looking in the mirror and disapproving of the shape your body has become, enough of the cocktails you have every evening, enough of the person on your team who is always dragging up the rear, enough of the debt you've brought upon yourself.  You fill in the blank - what have you had enough of?  Until you can honestly speak the words "I've had it with..." and "I want something better" you will do nothing to change the situation. What is your "enough" point?   Disappointment is the feeling that you've been let down, whether by you, someone else, or a situation.  You've received or experienced less than you expected.  That's a bummer.  This emotion brings with it sadness and defeat, and makes it difficult to believe that you can pick yourself up and move on. But that you must.  You must learn from your disappointment and chart a new course, always believing that you have what it takes to achieve.  You cannot allow disappointment to crush your dreams.   Discomfort is the feeling that something is just not right - there is unease in the air.  Discomfort is painful.  How painful your current situation is will determine what you do about it.  It's been said that nothing will change until the pain of not changing becomes greater than the pain of changing.  What is your discomfort telling you to change?   These 3 D feelings cannot be ignored for they will only intensify if they are not dealt with. The good news is that you can deal with them in a positive manner:   What is the message of the 3 Ds?  It's the message that you will not live this way anymore.  You've had enough and you are ready for change.  The message is a call to action.  Today is the day you act.         "Disappointment to the noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it."             Eliza Tabor   "Ones best success comes after their greatest disappointments."             Henry Ward Beecher   "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled.  For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers."             M. Scott Peck   "The vine bears three kinds of grapes: the first of pleasure, the second of intoxication, the third of disgust."             Diogenes     Disgust, disappointment, and discomfort - I've felt them all, as perhaps you've had.  You can get stuck in a rut very easily when you allow these feelings to take charge of your life.  It seems they feed off one another and your emotions spiral further out of control. Stop the free fall and take a good look in the mirror.  Get real with what you are disgusted, disappointed, and/or discomforted with.  Tell yourself that today is the day that you will act.  And then go do it.   Have a fantastic week and use the 3 Ds to take action.   Stephanie     We grow by "word-of-email" so please feel free to forward this newsletter to anyone whom you think might benefit from and enjoy it. Thanks so much! Contact Us: stephanie@7steps2abalancedlife.com