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Ending the Internal Struggle
Do you keep getting in your own way? Time after time, a goal or achievement is within reach, and then poof, it's gone. You're left picking up the pieces, wondering what went wrong. Was it you, was it them, who's to blame?
There's a good chance it was you. Yes, you! "Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen," says Alice P. Cornyn-Selby.
YOU make sure it doesn't happen. Why?
Because two voices inside you are playing tug-of-war. There is an internal struggle going on between what you consciously want and what your subconscious is telling you you can have or deserve to have.
Your subconscious tells you that you're not good enough to have that. So, you don't have it.
Your subconscious tells you that your "want" will never happen. So, it doesn't happen.
Your subconscious tells you that you've failed numerous times in the past. So what makes you think it will be any different now?
Your subconscious tells you that you don't have what it takes to persevere and see a project through to completion. So, you don't start, or stop midway through.
Your subconscious tells you that change is scary and will take you out of your comfort zone. So, you live the status quo, even though your heart wants more.
Your subconscious mind keeps you in fear. So much for venturing out into the unknown.
Your subconscious negative voices win out much of the time because you let them. And when you give credence to those voices you sabotage any chance you have of achieving what you want in life. You're then left frustrated and disenchanted.
Which voice are you listening to? The parable of the two wolves illustrates the internal struggle we all encounter:
A young Cherokee man is brought to the tribal elders. The tribe is concerned about his aggressive tendencies.
An elder tells this young man his anger is understandable because we all have two wolves inside of us. One wolf is good, peaceful, and kind. The other is evil, angry, and mean. Being such opposites, the two wolves fight constantly with each another, but neither is powerful enough to destroy the other.
The young man thinks a moment, then asks the elder: "If they are equally strong, which wolf will win?" And the elder replies, "The one you feed the most."
Begin today to feed your positive subconscious voices. Nourish them and they will grow. End the internal struggle of your voices by getting them in alignment so they work together to create positive movement in your life.
P.S. For a step-by-step approach to starving your critical voices, read my latestMentor's Mind column in the Woman Dentist Journal. The "Quieting Your Critical Voices" message is universal. Click here.
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